Wednesday, 20 November 2013


What done is done, you must look to the present to make your future better, but grudge a moment, look back on your life, is there anything you wish you could review and alter?  May be omit or edit? Cancel or erase?

Many of us fail because we quit too soon. We lose faith when the signs are against us. We do not have the courage to hold on, to keep fighting in spite of that which seems insurmountable. If more of us would strike out and attempt the "impossible," we very soon would find the truth of that old saying that nothing is impossible...abolish fear and we can accomplish anything you wish.

How many of us would say yea, I regret, I wish I had it done differently and sure you are not alone in that sentiment. Some regard in fervent convictions that regrets help illuminate mistakes we have made and allow us to learn from them or the relentless sting of regrets can motivate us to make positive changes in our lives. 

If you have tried to do something and failed, you are vastly better off than if you had tried to do nothing and succeeded. You must never regret what might have been. The past that did not happen is as hidden from us as the future we cannot see.

As much many more women as men reported a love or family related regret; men were slightly more likely than women to have career or education related remorse.

Not many people are willing to give failure a second opportunity. They fail once and it's all over. The bitter pill of failure is often more than most people can handle. If you're willing to accept failure and learn from it, if you're willing to consider failure as a blessing in disguise and bounce back, you've got the potential of harnessing one of the most powerful success forces.

Love Regrets: Romantic Regrets.
As depicted many times in rhythms and rhymes, if you stop and think about the stuff of sad love song lyrics, the one who got away, the one who broke your heart, and the one you should never have gotten involved with in the first place, quite a percentage of people surveyed put a romantic relationship at the top of their regret list.

Advisably use awareness of hurt and anger to express more directly and constructively your needs and concerns in a relationship. However avoiding conflicts can be the kiss of death in relationships, but don’t vent anger toward each other.

The worst thing that one can do is not try, to be aware of what one wants and not give in to it, to spend years in silent hurt wondering if something could have materialised and never knowing.

Family Disputes: Relative Regrets.

Haven’t spoken to someone since you lived under the same roof? The next most common type of regrets would be family related. Among the more prevalent issues were disagreements or arguments that got out of hand. 

In many cases, people wished that they had resolved family issues sooner, if they’d been resolved at all,  it can be difficult to resolve conflicts with people we’re closest to, especially after a lot of time has passed.

It's not what your are, it's what you don't become that hurts.

Literally literacy: Education Regrets. 

Wish you’d cracked the books more in college or gotten your act together to apply to grad school? A lot more share your inexperience, people has school-related regrets, such as not studying harder, not pursuing a different major in college, and not staying in school longer and yet we agree education has no boundaries. 

Those with lower levels of education were more likely to have education regrets than those who went on to receive advanced degrees. Yet are degrees enough to clear the fears and tears induced by teachers, mates, lovers and bullies.

Never live for yesterday.

The Job The Money Maker: Career Regrets.

If you’ve ever turned down a job only to be plagued by “what-ifs” months or years later, you can relate to the people who reported a career-related regret. Many people reported feeling that they chose the wrong path. Interestingly, the more education participants had, the more likely they were to wish they had made a different career choice.

The only things I regret...are the things I didn't do.

Money Alters The Situation: Financial Regrets.

Won the lottery or sunk your life savings in a home only to watch its value take a sudden fall. If you’re grappling with money terrorism don't  advance on the fence street. The economy ain't taking the needy nowhere, just remember money has the power to create, like the prince of darkness money can deprive our pockets of deity-ness.

In short money bears money, before your worries destroy the roots, seek financial stability through advice and guidance.

Live Free, Regret Nothing.

Making Yourself Sick: Health Regrets.

Many people regret something about their health, such as not visiting the doctor more often, eating poorly, and not exercising. Most people with health regrets had experienced significant health issues. 

They felt that such problems could have been prevented or would have been less serious if they’d taken better care of themselves. Luckily, it’s never too late to make positive health changes, and even tiny tweaks can have a huge impact on your overall well-being.

For of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: "It might have been!"

Religion: Pious Regrets.

According to Research nearly 80% of adults say that religion is very important in their lives. However, despite these relatively high numbers or, maybe because of them a percent of those surveyed felt sorry about something spiritual. 

Common issues, on the high, included not going to church enough or making choices that people later felt were immoral and not in line with their religious beliefs. 

Instead of feeling overwhelmed by spiritual guilt, try to reconnect with your faith in a positive way. Prayer and meditation help us relax, causing blood pressure to dip, heart rate to decrease, and muscle tension to ease up, all very healthy side effects, says a specialist of the Behavioural Research Center of the American Cancer Society.

Go to the effort. Invest the time. Write the letter. Make the apology. Take the trip. Purchase the gift. Do it. The seized opportunity renders joy. The neglected brings regret.

When Humanity Counts: 
Community Regrets.

How far could you have gone with a relatives cry for support, a partner's or stranger's necessities? You might be right there among a percent of individuals who regretted not volunteering more or being more outspoken about issues in their community. 

Reams of studies show that lending a hand is good for your mental and physical health.

People have to face regrets. Becoming mature means learning to accept what you cannot change, facing unresolved sorrows and learning to love life as it really happens, not as you would have it happen. When someone attaches unkindness to criticism, she's angry. Angry people need to criticize as an outlet for their anger. That's why you must reject unkind criticism. Unkind criticism is never part of a meaningful critique of you. Its purpose is not to teach or to help, its purpose is to punish. Life isn't supposed to be an all or  nothing battle between misery and bliss. Life isn't supposed to be a battle at all. And when it comes to happiness, well, sometimes life is just okay, sometimes it's comfortable, sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring, sometimes unpleasant. When your day's not perfect, it's not a failure or a terrible loss. It's just another day.