Sunday, 13 April 2014
INFIDELITY; WHO CHEATS AND WHY
Every story has three sides. Yours, his/hers and the facts. Count your blessings. Once you realise how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence.
When it comes to infidelity, men and the modern day women cheating, there are a number of myths and misconceptions, truth and miscommunications. First of all, infidelity isn't limited to intercourse or physical contact. Also men aren't the only species that cheat or has the license to cheat.
Time is the justice that examines all offenders.
People without denial, when circumstances present the urge, might seek comfort and satisfaction, in and out of the bedroom, beyond marital territories, and almost as much and frequently as men, women also flexes the fight or flight capacity. It's estimated that the number of men who cheat on their wives is up to 60 percent. But as many as 55 percent of women also cheat, a number that's probably climbing and today is likely on a par with men's statistics. Really not just like father like son, the future is also about like mother like daughter, what men could do women are doing better. Nevertheless men seem to have the moral obligation to be excusable with an unwarranted license to satisfy their sexual quest.
True liberty can exist only when justice is equally administered to all.
Moreover it's important to clarify that you don't have to have sex to commit infidelity. Infidelity can be committed within many types of inappropriate intimacy outside a couple's relationship, be it emotional or physical, it's not always about the tango.
Surely we know sex does make people happy, but to some it is just like having a cup of tea.
For instance, cyber affairs are allowing computers to invade the bedroom in more ways than one. Cheating does occur online, without ever having sex or even seeing the other person, but it's certainly an act of unfaithfulness. A recent study found that while a man didn't consider an online affair to be cheating because there was no physical contact, his wife disagreed. During the course of therapy to help repair the marriage, other problems gnawing away at the couple before the online affair surfaced, such as a lack of communication, being unhappy with their sex life, and simply feeling bored. But the study also indicated that people may cheat (at least online) without those marital problems, but serving two masters always ensures problematic situations.
Sex is two plus two making five, rather than four. Sex is the X ingredient that you can't define, and it's that X ingredient between two people that make both a man and a woman good in bed. It's all relative. There are no rules.
Why are so many men and women willing to sail relentless tides to jeopardise their marriage vows? Presumably people who cheat have some type of mental illness or personality disorder. But primarily why people cheat is because there is an emotional disconnect or feeling of neglect. In many cases of infidelity, it is about feeling emotionally connected to someone, about being loved.
But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door. It desires to have you, but you must master it.
Women and men cheat because they're simply missing something or having less of something in their relationship. When women start to feel disconnected and distant, loneliness and depression can set in. Eventually, they may look outside their relationship for someone who can meet their emotional and physical needs and ease their loneliness.
Though one should give enough time to an affair to be able to recognise it's short comings before it turns intimately into a relationship, because relationship problems may trigger infidelity and exhibit why people cheat.
People who cheat may want to escape their relationship, and do not know how to do it. Sometimes it's too hard to say you want out, so women cheat instead. Infidelity is a way of sabotaging the relationship because for whatever reason the person is already unhappy, dissatisfied, disgruntled, and wants out, as experts view it.
Everything is simpler than you think and yet more complex than you imagine.
To find that spark. With money worries, exhaustion, bills, and kids, the spark that kept a relationship hot at first can often fizzle out. Romance can get lost in the day to day routine of life. Even if they're not on the hunt for an affair, some people may become seduced by the temptation of the high that comes with any new relationship.
An unsatisfying sex life. If the sex isn't satisfying and a person isn't feeling emotionally fulfilled in a relationship, the spark of interest may wander towards others. A person can also start to feel like there is a problem with attractions or desire from partners perception if their sex life is slow.
Revenge and retaliation. If a husband has cheated, sometimes a woman may cheat to get back at him. It's an effort to get the husband to feel the hurt, anger, and jealousy that she felt.
Low self-esteem can be another reason why people cheat. Gaining attention from others can boost self-confidence and self-esteem. Compliments, phone calls, flowers, and notes from another person are flattering and make a person feel more attractive and wanted.
Perhaps because of that, women are also more likely to care about the emotional aspects of infidelity when their partners cheat. A recent study revealed that female victims of cheating asked about sex in just 29 percent of cases but about love in 71 percent of cases, compared with 57 percent and 43 percent of cases, respectively, for men.
Copy cat inductive is another reason why women and men cheat, that is they do what they know or experience. If they saw infidelity in their parents' relationship, both men and women may follow those patterns in their own lives.
Women who cheat do so for many of the same, if not exact, reasons that men do and as well obtain such equal scenarios or reasons to justify their absurdities, attraction or attention issues, unsatisfying sex life, unhappy relationship, feelings of neglect, looking for an ego boost, and a disconnect in the marriage.
We need not worry so much about what man descends from; it's what he descends to that shames the human race.
Women are not that different from men or vice versa when it comes to cheating, except that women are more apt to fall in love with their new partner. The reason is hormonal oxytocin, a hormone, stimulates the brain to give a woman that rush from being in love.
Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.