Monday, 26 May 2014

DIGNITY IS TO FORGIVE WHEN HURT.

Forgiveness is the scent that the rose leaves on the heel that crushes it. He who knows the darkness shall learn to live in the light. Your heart says stay and battle the pain, but your mind says leave for all this isn't needed, broken into pieces for that one and only. But follow your heart because the heart can only take so much. Forgiveness is not a one time only event. It is a process.


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The longer the life the more the offense, the more the offense the more the pain, the more the pain the less defense and the less defense the less the gain. "I can forgive, but I cannot forget," is only another way of saying, "I cannot forgive." A wise man will make haste to forgive, because he knows the full value of time and will not suffer it to pass away in unnecessary pain.

Equality is to treat everyone with respect and dignity.  It centres on treating everyone fairly, regardless of their or your own beliefs or preferences. When equality is not achieved, and people are not treated fairly, it is known as discrimination.  This occurs when people do not respect a person’s belief or choice, be it because of their personal preference or otherwise.

Pain adds rest unto pleasure, and teaches the luxury of health. He who forgiveth, and is reconciled unto his enemy, shall receive his reward from God; for he loveth not the unjust doers.

What do you do? If you have been hurt so badly, physically or psychologically, emotionally matters could get out of hands and out of spirits as much. Revenge is ever sweet when served chilled and yet we must live with dignity, learn to forgive.

When you feel hurt, you don’t need to talk to a therapist venting hurts and resentments with a trusted friend or family member can be beneficial. 

Forgiveness is the oil of relationships.

When you feel hurt, write down your hurts and resentments in a letter, can be a form of commitment. Then trash or burn the letter as a conscious, physical symbol of commitment to forgiveness.

Forget and forgive. This is not difficult when properly understood. It means forget inconvenient duties, then forgive yourself for forgetting. By rigid practice and stern determination, it comes easy.

When you feel hurt, to help develop empathy, try writing a letter to yourself as though you were the offender. Try to explain why you, as the offending party, might have acted the way you did.

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace. If you find yourself obsessing about an injury, tell yourself loudly to stop. Then replace those thoughts with something more relaxing, constructive, or inspiring. 

Remember, what we need is to respect others dignity, which could not be possible without differences. Diversity is the difference and variation between people, based on a number of characteristics.  These can include gender, age, ethnic group, religious beliefs and socio economic groups.  Even in these groups individuals have their own unique personal qualities and characteristics.  

Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive. During our days on the social earth, we will always come into contact with people from diverse backgrounds, different people elevate various contradictions and most of them hurt  us badly. In contrast to revenge, which is the natural, automatic reaction to transgression and which, because of the irreversibility of the action process can be expected and even calculated, the act of forgiving can never be predicted; it is the only reaction that acts in an unexpected way and thus retains, though being a reaction, something of the original character of action.

If a good person does you wrong, act as though you had not noticed it. They will make note of this and not remain in your debt long.

And if your friend does evil to you, say to him, "I forgive you for what you did to me, but how can I forgive you for what you did to yourself?"

Whoever approaches me walking, I will come to him running; and he who meets me with sins equivalent to the whole world, I will greet him with forgiveness equal to it.