Monday, 13 August 2012

ANOREXIA - HOLD ON - SEXUALLY

Knowledge is the best way of approaching and exorcising our short comings and importantly our demonised fears.

The greatest things are accomplished by individual people, not by committees or companies.

Sexual anorexia is a term used to describe a loss of "appetite" for romantic-sexual interaction. The term is used broadly and can be more precisely defined as a fear of intimacy to the point that the person has severe anxiety surrounding sex with emotional content i.e. in an intimate relationship.


For a man to achieve all that is demanded of him he must regard himself as greater than he is.

According to some professionals, there are people who appear to have a sexual addiction which is expressed through a variety of behaviors such as the compulsive use of strip clubs, prostitutes, cyberporn sites, etc. nevertheless fit the definition of sexual anorexic in that they seem to lack the ability to have a relationship of a sexual nature beyond a paid-for or anonymous experience. The person does not have an aversion to sex but to intimacy.

It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love. This is how the whole scheme of things works. All good things are difficult to achieve; and bad things are very easy to get.

The idea of sexual anorexia was first introduced by psychologist Nathan Hare in 1975.

The whole point of getting things done is knowing what to leave undone.

A sex addict is more likely to be capable of being in a more intimate relationship and is often married or in a committed relationship when deciding to get treatment for their addiction. A sexual anorexic may have a social phobia or be so fragile emotionally that the risk of rejection or criticism is far more frightening than being isolated.

A man may fulfill the object of his existence by asking a question he cannot answer, and attempting a task he cannot achieve.

There is a believe that Narcissistic acts are often seen in both sexual anorexics and sex addicts, but in the sexual anorexic, the acts are considered far more coldhearted and the guilt of rejection and belittling is far more deeply felt than for the sex addict.

Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.

Treatment is aimed at helping the person see where their fears lie and to see the world in it's reality and unbiased state.

Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.

The person is encouraged to take personally measured risks with social activities and distorted thinking is gently challenged with facts and reality.

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential, these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.

The goals for both sex addicts and sexual anorexics is to learn to have healthy sex and get emotional needs met in direct ways, and to set healthy boundaries as much as possible.

The fellow who does things that count, doesn't usually stop to count them.

This is an issue that requires long and possibly ongoing treatment in organised stages with the end goal of empowerment, independence, and improved social relationships. The measure of a man is the way he bears up under misfortune.