Sunday, 5 August 2012

IS IT FAIR FOR A CHILD TO GRIEVE

Deliver those who are being taken away to death, and those who are staggering to slaughter, O hold them back. If you say, 'See, we did not know this', does He not consider it who weighs the hearts? And does He not know it who keeps your soul? And will He not render to man according to his work?

Nothing about loss or death should be considered responsibly fair, quite often it takes more than a man if not an entire army to inform an adult about a dead relative, ferociously, even a veracious gentle speaking person will devastate the innocent spirit and soul of a child.

Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God, the good spirits and souls are with thee whithersoever thou goes or does.

The situation is entirely, most of the time and somehow almost all the time, the entire family is grief shakily shattered, parents highly on radiance of seeking emotional and psychological support, notwithstanding the hopeless mental disorientation consuming almost every member of the family when a love one transpires into eternal oblivion. How then could parents, potentially, deliver news about the death of a loved one, with the prospects of terrifying consequences, to a child and possibly dealing with the challenges the news will impact on a child.

Faith builds the bridge from this old world to the new.

Most children are let down to live with the fear and anxiety that will haunt , abide with them unfairly through adulthood, becoming extremely perpetual challenges even in maturity.

There would never be a certified way to grieve. Every child, circumstance and reaction will not be the same, ensure the correct way is your unique approach and instinctive support.

Build your child through innocence to maturity about the grieving know how. Explain death in basic, simple terms and enlightening on how the human body works, then at a point has to stop working.

Nobody likes hearing the hypes and jibes about death, eliminate unsatisfactory statements, like "up in the skies" or "went away".

Reveal your true inner most, allowing the tears to flow, do not hide your emotions assuming to make things better and lighter. Make the child feel natural grieving naturally.

Explaining what had happened could never be enough, take some time through the right atmosphere secure the knowledge of the future with the child, a future without the deceased, a future that the loved one will be missed but always remembered.

Faith is that strengthening power within urging you on your way, teaching you all that you must know, helping to redeem. Faith is that strengthening power within lighting the road you trod, helping you know which way to go, pointing the way to determination.