Thursday, 2 August 2012

WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE DIES

Nothing becomes so offensive so quickly as grief. When fresh it finds someone to console it, but when it becomes chronic, it is ridiculed, and rightly.

For your anger lasts only a brief moment, and your good favor restores one's life. You may experience sorrow during the night, but joy arrives in the morning.


Commemoration ceremonies after death may include various mourning or funeral practices. The physical remains of a person, commonly known as a corpse or body, are usually interred whole or cremated, though among the world's cultures there are a variety of other methods of mortuary disposal. Proper preparation for death and techniques and ceremonies for producing the ability to transfer one's spiritual attainments into another body (reincarnation) are Important and necessary to proving the respect needed.

The death of a loved one can be a deeply traumatic event creating many emotions. Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed. Each of us will react in different ways. A lot more people if not almost every family, have shared similar feelings.

When someone dies we may feel that the situation is quite unreal initially. We tend to radiate;

Loss

Sadness

Guilt

Anger

Numbness

You may not want to talk about the particular death or feel able to make any decisions. A cheerful heart is good medicine, deeply parting from loved ones can be very difficult. You will rhetorically come up with many emotional questions;

Why me

What could I have done

What will I do

Growing through such enormous experience is part of normal grieving, the only cure for grief is action.

You may even experience similar symptoms to the patient who has died. This can be very frightening. This feeling may last a long time and leave you physically and emotionally drained. Pain hardens, and great pain hardens greatly, whatever the comforters say, and suffering does not ennoble, though it may occasionally lend a certain rigid dignity of manner to the suffering frame.

Try to;

Express your feelings to an understanding listener.

Continue to talk about your loved one

Allow yourself to grieve again on anniversaries, birthdays, special events.

Accept that memories will remain, memories of pain, memories of comforting.

Take time to take care of yourself

Involve as many people around, family members and friends in the grieving process.

Where grief is fresh, any attempt to divert it only irritates. It might also get to a point you might have to seek help. Grieving emotions can be frightening and sometimes more help is needed. Seek help if you continue to;

Be overwhelmed by emotions

Have difficulty sleeping

Lack the ability to concentrate on everyday things

Use alcohol, medication or tobacco excessively

Have difficulties with other relationships

Feel the need to share your emotions but have no one else who listens.

Seek help at the twilight but thank your God every time you remember your dead one, when the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left.